Sex is not the be all and end all of a relationship but I

Sex is not the be all and end all of a relationship, but I don’t think a relationship could survive bad sex.I don’t practise safe sex; it’s difficult to bring up the subject when you’re in the throes of it That’s pathetic, I know. I’m on the pill, though.Roger Rees, 37, social worker I haven’t had sex since October, which is rather depressing I would love to have more sex. If I were in a relationship I would like to do it three or four times a week. I could just go out and pick someone up in a nightclub, but it’s not me – I like to know the person first.I lost my virginity when I was 14 or 15, and have had sex with 12 women since I’ve never been unfaithful That’s just not me, either. It’s not something I would like to happen to me, and I think it shows there’s something wrong with the relationship Sex has got better as I’ve got older.

I’m more adventurous.Davina Goldberg, 35, museum curator For me, sex isn’t necessarily an expression of love I find it easier to express my love in other ways. I think women can be just as emotionally detached from sex as men can be. I lost my virginity at 22, and have had sex with 10 to 12 men. I’ve been unfaithful once in my life – I was bored with the relationship.The best thing about sex is pleasing your partner, and watching them enjoy themselves I’m quite a selfless lover. I’m eager for other people to receive pleasure.I do wish society was more polygamous I’m not a great believer in monogamy It can be a hefty weight for us to carry. I wish people were more honest about wanting to go off and shag other people.Melanie Shirley, 33, press officerI lost my virginity when I was 26 to a woman I knew I was gay from the age of 13 I’ve slept with one other woman since Both relationships only lasted a few months. The sex was never about lust, it was my way of expressing my feelings for them.

I would like to have more sex, but I don’t tend to meet the sort of women I’m attracted to. I don’t go for stereotypically gay-looking women, and there aren’t many straight-looking gay women where I live. The things I would look for in a partner are a good sense of humour, and the ability to connect with them on all levels. I’m increasingly comfortable with my sexuality, but I don’t want it generally known.Gareth Morgan, 34, computer technicianI prefer making love to having sex If you want sex you may as well just masturbate Nightclub sex is rubbish. But “being-in-love” sex is excellent.I lost my virginity when I was 18, and I’ve had sex with about 12 people I was unfaithful to two of them because I got bored. I think women want more of the emotional stuff that goes with sex. Men generally just want to have sex.Simon Sugrue, 30, recruitment consultant (above)When I was 13, I lost my virginity to a school friend.

We were very young and it was a funny first time, but not as bad in comparison to some I’ve heard about. We’re still good friends and continue to laugh about it even now.I’ve probably had more than 75 partners. I used to play football professionally, so it went with the turf. My attitude then was very relaxed and I’d do whatever I wanted. I stopped playing for a living about seven years ago and since then my attitude towards sex has changed. I started to feel guilty about one-night stands, so I changed my ways.The one partner that stands out was my girlfriend who I was with for two years before we broke up last November.

She was adventurous, had no sexual barriers and like me was very passionate, so sex with her was unbelievable but could also be very intimate. There is always a lot more passion when you care for someone. When you’re not in tune with someone and there’s nothing there, it can be very awkward. My worst experience was when I once had a one-night stand, which was so excruciatingly awkward that we were both making excuses.I’ve had quite crazy sex.