If you don’t let them have their way there’s potential blackmail

If you don’t let them have their way, there’s potential blackmail. The fact that he might just go and leave me was unthinkable.”The situation was exacerbated by the fact that the GP in question was embroiled in a custody battle over Jenny’s children, and she believed that her relationship with them was at stake.She explains: “The deal with my ex-husband was that if I didn’t fight for custody in court, the children would come home every fortnight for the weekend.”The doctor said to me: ‘Leave the mechanics of access to me.’ He meant he would see to it Well, he didn’t My children have been away for nine years next month. He literally climbed on top of me, pounded and climbed off again He didn’t do anything else. I used to have a bath afterwards and cry and worry what was wrong with me It was awful.

Terrible.”After we had sex, he would go straight to the bathroom, wash, come back, get dressed and leave. I had two years of that abuse.”But no matter how awful and terrible the relationship was, Jenny felt unable to break it off “I was terrified. There’s an inherent power imbalance there if you’re totally depressed and divorced and somebody helps you. “He told me I had sexual needs.” But it was not long now before the talking would become history.”About once a month he would have intercourse and go It was rape He didn’t make love He didn’t kiss me or anything. Life’s passing you by.’ It was to make me hurry up.”Shortly afterwards, the doctor raised the subject of Jenny’s celibacy.

I saw him as a father figure.”Despite her misgivings, Jenny didn’t want to “rock the boat”.”I didn’t want to reject him in case he stopped supporting me, so I took the middle road I said I needed time to think about it. He then replied, and this is the second manipulative thing he said, he really was quite understanding: ‘Don’t take too long. First he said, ‘What do you look for in a man?’ I replied, “Someone who’s caring and intelligent.” He said, ‘I’m those things.’ And that’s how it started. I was totally shocked and bewildered because I thought, ‘He’s not allowed to do this, and he’s married.’ I didn’t find him attractive. The home visits continued and Jenny began to feel more secure. Then one day it all changed.”He said to me he could offer me a relationship. He also treated me for depression and prescribed anti-depressants.”I saw him once a week, either at the surgery or at home He was very supportive in the early stages He was kind and he showed me some affection He’s a married man, 20 years my senior.

I thought at that time that he was just caring but really, looking back, it was the grooming part. At that time, before the abuse started, I just thought it was wonderful to have someone at last who cared about me.”Over the first few months the doctor won Jenny’s trust, and before very long he knew everything about her life. “He knew how vulnerable I was,” she says, “that I’d been emotionally abused by my mother when I was growing up, that I had two small children and that I lived in poverty.”Six months went by. “The greater power lies with the practitioner always, and it’s up to the practitioner to maintain that boundary.”It all started when I went to see my GP after my divorce I was already in a totally traumatised and depressed state He offered me counselling. He’s not trained for it but he’s known to ‘do psychological therapy’, and it started from there.